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Simple systems to get more done and stress less

My friend Ben Meer is known as “The Systems Guy.” He sent me an advance copy of his new book, How to Be Good at Life. It’s out today.

It’s packed with 40+ simple systems for your health, money, relationships, home, and career. You can start using them right away.

It’s the most practical book I’ve read in a long time.

More than 20,000 people pre-ordered it, and it’s being published in 25+ languages. I think it’s going to be an instant bestseller.

When I left my corporate job, losing the commute was an immediate win.

No more sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic or navigating big parking garages. I certainly don’t miss that. 

I love working from home. If I have 5 minutes between calls, I can step outside my office, say hello to my wife and check in on my kids. 

This flexibility is a gift. I am grateful for it every day.

But my commute had a purpose I never noticed. It was a buffer between work mode and family mode. 

Three years in, I’m still figuring out how to replace it.

When you work in an office, your drive home has a job.

Music, an audiobook, silence in traffic… it doesn’t matter. Your brain gets 30 or 45 minutes to decompress. Pulling into the driveway was a signal to me to shift into home mode.

When your office is at home, your commute is 8 steps down a hallway.

On a hard day, that creates a sudden and painful collision.

You spent the day putting out fires, making tough decisions, staring at a screen until your head hurts. 

Then you get up, open the door and walk straight into family life.

Your wife wants to talk. Your kids want your attention right now.

You’re standing in the room, but your mind is sitting at your desk.

I felt disconnected for a lot of evenings before I understood why. Without a physical commute, work can spill into every single room of your home. 

If your environment won’t give you a boundary, you have to build one.

My friend Eric Partaker wrote a book about this very issue called The 3 Alarms.

To manage his daily transitions, Eric set 3 alarms on his phone to remind him who needs to show up:

The chime of each alarm is his psychological cue to set down one identity and step into the next.

I borrowed this idea and built my own end-of-day transitions:

#1: Empty your mind on paper.

Before I shut down, I pick a stopping time, grab a pen, and write down 3 things that need to happen tomorrow.

Researchers call this “attention residue.” 

When you leave something unfinished, part of your attention stays behind on it. Your brain keeps working the problem all evening whether you want it to or not.

Writing it down tells your brain it can wait until tomorrow. You don’t need to spend dinner rehearsing your morning.

#2: Create a physical threshold.

Don’t stand up and wander into the living room while still thinking about an email. Give yourself a physical signal that the day is over.

Close your laptop screen. Push in your chair. Take two slow, deep breaths, and remind yourself: My family has been waiting for me all day. This is their time.

Then open the door. That doorway is your finish line.

#3: Protect the first two hours of your evening.

This was the hardest change for me, but it’s made the biggest difference.

If you walk out of your office with your eyes glued to your phone, you defeat the entire purpose. 

You’re telling your spouse and kids that whatever is on that screen matters more than they do.

For the first two hours of the evening, leave your phone in your pocket (or even better in another room). 

If something is truly urgent, you can check back in after the kids are asleep and you’ve spent quality time with your partner.

Think about how yesterday ended. Did you carry the day straight to the dinner table?

Tonight, try building a 5-minute buffer before you leave your desk.

Write down your top 3 priorities for tomorrow. Take a breath and name who you want to be when you open that door. Then leave your phone charging in your office.

Give your brain the chance to catch up with your body.

The work will still be waiting for you tomorrow morning. 

Talk soon,
Justin

P.S. Thanks to everyone who answered my poll last Friday. I put together a short survey to go a little deeper.

It’s 8 questions and takes about 2 minutes. If you have a few minutes, I’d really appreciate your input.